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Originally Posted by Have Hope
I don't think Jay is all that decent after all. I think he's a bit of a player.
I think he's a wanderer too. He quit his steady and stable full-time job. Since then, he's mowing lawns and doing lawn and home maintenance for his neighborhood. He wants to move to the Caribbean to be a boat captain. So just do it already. He's in limbo, with no goals or any real direction. He's aimless. We're the complete opposite. I am very goal oriented. I don't stagnate and I cannot stand being in a limbo state.
He would have driven me crazy, between the long lapses in communication, his non-committal attitude, and his limbo state of being, I would have gone bonkers.
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I thought it was established he is a non comital player and and that’s why you were broken up awhile back. Were you considering to go back to him as this post comes across as a new discovery? If yes, then I am glad you didn’t. If someone was a non comital, under achieving, player few months back, he’d not miraculously be someone else few months later.
I also don’t buy stories of quitting stable jobs and becoming a lawn mower. Most likely was fired. And I’d not be able to go past his lack of parenting. There is no court order where long distance parent wouldn’t have long summer visitation stretch with a kid. 4 weeks, 6 weeks etc it depends on the arrangements. Did he have his child this summer? Nope. Bet not. He goes to bars, hooks up and gets stoned instead. He’s either a jerk not caring for the kid or doesn’t even have visitation rights. Don’t date men like that. If that’s how they are as parents, that’s how they are as everything else
I really hope you 100% done with him and and all other men of this variety