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Originally Posted by divine1966
I thought it was established he is a non comital player and and that’s why you were broken up awhile back. Were you considering to go back to him as this post comes across as a new discovery? If yes, then I am glad you didn’t. If someone was a non comital, under achieving, player few months back, he’d not miraculously be someone else few months later.
I also don’t buy stories of quitting stable jobs and becoming a lawn mower. Most likely was fired. And I’d not be able to go past his lack of parenting. There is no court order where long distance parent wouldn’t have long summer visitation stretch with a kid. 4 weeks, 6 weeks etc it depends on the arrangements. Did he have his child this summer? Nope. Bet not. He goes to bars, hooks up and gets stoned instead. He’s either a jerk not caring for the kid or doesn’t even have visitation rights. Don’t date men like that. If that’s how they are as parents, that’s how they are as everything else
I really hope you 100% done with him and and all other men of this variety
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His son visited him for two weeks in June.
But, I agree that his parenting is lacking and the situation seems fishy.
Why does his ex wife have him still blocked on her facebook, five years post divorce? And why does she refuse to speak with Jay on the phone, forcing him to only text with her? And, why did she move out of state with his son, far away from him so that he doesn't or cannot see his son on a regular basis? All of these questions make me think something far bigger and far more negative happened between them. Perhaps he is abusive, and I don't even know it. I did receive a couple of very mean comments or jokes at the very beginning, at my expense, which did raise an eyebrow for me.
All of this points to negatives about him. I was just simply caught up for a while in having a comfort blanket through my divorce and post divorce. Now I am seeing him far more clearly than I did before, even though I noticed everything i am bringing up here. It takes me a while to process information ,and sometimes, that process is slow.