His son visited him for two weeks in June.

But, I agree that his parenting is lacking and the situation seems fishy.

Why does his ex wife have him still blocked on her facebook, five years post divorce? And why does she refuse to speak with Jay on the phone, forcing him to only text with her? And, why did she move out of state with his son, far away from him so that he doesn't or cannot see his son on a regular basis? All of these questions make me think something far bigger and far more negative happened between them. Perhaps he is abusive, and I don't even know it. I did receive a couple of very mean comments or jokes at the very beginning, at my expense, which did raise an eyebrow for me.

All of this points to negatives about him. I was just simply caught up for a while in having a comfort blanket through my divorce and post divorce. Now I am seeing him far more clearly than I did before, even though I noticed everything i am bringing up here. It takes me a while to process information ,and sometimes, that process is slow.