I am concerned that he took no time between end of therapy and these lunch outings. He must know it’s not particularly ethical or appropriate. He must know that this isn’t true friendship and isn’t therapy. So what does he think it is? Especially if he knows that you get attached to unavailable men.

Does he not see that you are doing it with him, that he is proverbial unavailable man here. He should think about what’s he doing. It’s harmful.

I have hard time wrapping my mind around the fact that this or any t would think that this is ok. I think it’s wise to put a stop to it for your own peace of mind. Of course you could also tell him what you think and see his response first etc

I don’t put therapists on pedestal as they are regular folks like us, but it’s all together shocking what some of these therapists doing. It’s mind boggling