I had a brother who was occasionally violent towards me. His behaviour was distressing and he began threatening to kill me so much I thought he might actually do it.

I think he is more supported by family because they are more wowed by him having a family and doing all the right things in their mind. He’s more narcissistic and I think family automatically accepts him because he reflects their narcissism. They readily default to lauding him for average milestones while holding me at arm’s length whenever I bring any issue or concern. My successes feel overshadowed by me being the problem.

I think I am a scapegoat.