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Old Aug 07, 2023, 05:05 AM
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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover View Post
Sell the jewelry, use the money to buy food for a local food pantry. Turn the awful reminders into something good for others. Giving to other people and the gratitude that comes from a selfless act is healing.

Divorce support groups are not people sitting around crying over the past. It isn't people kicking themselves and regretting their choices. It's people with a variety of backgrounds and circumstances taking healthy steps to move away from all that. It's people who accept that everyone struggles sometimes and needs the support of others with similar experiences to get through it.

There are women only divorce support groups. There are lots of women who join just to find activity partners who understand that divorce is painful and they need other women who understand that. Support meetings typically have a focus theme such as celebrating the holidays differently, how to vacation as a single person, managing finances and taxes, and a ton of other stuff divorced people need to learn to do on their own.

Try something new and different every day. It makes the passage of time that is needed to move forward more fun and more rewarding. New and different could be as simple as trying a new food, walking in a different park or trying a new yoga pose. The only thing you have to lose is old habits and reminders that need to change.

To answer your question, these are things that worked for me and many of the women in my divorce support group. Healing is a thousand tiny things that add up to big steps toward healthy.
Thank you for the suggestions.

I don't know what I will do with the jewelry yet.

If I were to join a divorce support group, I would want it to be a narc abuse support group. This kind of relationship and loss is different than a normal relationship. I would want specialized support.

I have incorporated some new things into my routine. I don't know about trying something new every day. How does one come up with such ideas?
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