I know what you are going thru with the possesiveness and jealousy.. I am a lesbian too and for some reason every relationship i have been with untill my current one has been sort of like that...i do not have a child of my own but i have been in a relationship with some one who had a daughter....the women you are talking to needs to accept your daughter or forget about being with you....there are plenty other women that are probly dying to be with you...women who will see your daughter as a blessing...If you ever need any one to talk to do not hesitate to PM me..