I guess this comes down to her perception. She feels attacked, even if you didn’t mean for her to feel that.

If I’ve ever had a situation whereby I’ve inadvertently upset someone or they have me I find it helpful to step back and give space. Then I think carefully about what to say. This depends on the context but I always begin by thanking them for their friendship and honesty and express that I hope we can work through this. I apologise for my contribution to the upset.

This is how I have handled things in the past anyhow- it sounds like your friend is being honest with you here and that could be a good sign, rather than just ghosting you.