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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover
Each day, ask yourself what will be new today in my life. It doesnt have to be something you keep in your life forever. It's about expanding your comfort zone. I can't really give you a list of things because I don't know you personally. Try a new salad dressing. Go out and skip wine with dinner, take the stairs if you would normally take an elevator, use a coupon if you normally don't.
I tried sushi and absolutely hated it! Never again. But I'm glad I tried it. I now have a funny story to share when someone suggests going out for sushi. I used a free sample of laundry detergent and liked it.
I'm VERY aware that narcissistic abuse is uniquely different. But, you specifically mentioned the no drama sob story need... Try a regular divorce support group. In my experience a general support group has very limited sob story and drama. Dealing with abuse comes with alot of difficult stories and a lot of
emotions. Every abuse/divorce hybrid group I've participated in has involved LOTS of story sharing. It's triggering and emotional for most people in some way.
Try different groups. It isn't a waste of time to try and decide it's not right. Waiting to deal with things or not trying are wastes of time. No one is going to force you to keep going to a support group you don't like. If you don't try them on, you won't know if they are a good fit. What do you have to lose by trying?
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That's a great point about abuse support groups. I don't want to constantly feel triggered.
I can at least look into a divorce support group. I guess right now, I feel most or all of my energy is being put towards my new job, It's challenging and there's so much for me to learn. This makes it stressful. I come home, and all I want to do is lie down in my beanbag and relax.
I do like your idea of trying new things... that makes life more interesting and adventurous.
Thank you again for your suggestions and support.