Thematically this all boils down to the same thing we were discussing on the previous thread. She is not a person who wants to be confrontational. Her definition of that differs from yours, but it doesn't make her wrong anymore than it makes you wrong. You're different people and you need to understand (and respect) those differences. If you understand no when its delivered differently than the direct approach, then accept that. "Reading between the lines" is a frustrated description you gave on the other thread. Its more about understanding the person. If you know her well enough to understand she is not purposely trying to hurt you, then quit putting yourself in circumstance where you emotionally feel she is. You need to accept who it is she is and how she handles these matters. And if those differences between you and her bother you to where you have to be confrontational with her, then you need to ask yourself why you're even there. Be honest with yourself.

Are you wanting more than what is actually there and perhaps that frustration is what's at the heart of this issue? Because the general complaint of her being essentially unreliable is an easy fix. Quit wasting your time with her. Move on to people who are more your personality type and alleviate these issues that are making you lash out. If the answer lies beyond the surface complaint, then step back and examine whether this person is a viable match for you and whether you should be pursuing this. If you feel like you need her companionship, then you need to yield to the characteristics that define her and quit trying to change her which is only going to push her away.