Asking to do some cooking and cleaning isn’t unreasonable since you don’t work. If my husband didn’t work, you bet I’d be asking for housework to get done while I work, normally we split chores but I’d not want to come home after work day with nothing done if he was home all day and was going to concerts and restaurants and festivals and movies and socialized with friends. I’d expect some stuff to get done.

BUT your husband absolutely has no business threatening and mistreating you. He’s abusive. I don’t think the issue is him being cold. He’s rude and mean. And what he’s doing is abuse.

I can ensure you that’s not how all men are at all.