Although I agree SOME people are this way, it seems that you often perceive people to be this way even if they aren’t. Like you thought people were flaky but really one was sick and the other was in a bad financial scam.

You also complain that they have issues, but you yourself described having very many issues in all aspects. It seems to be a huge double standard. I don’t think it’s fair. You’ll have hard time finding people with no issues and no obligations readily available for all these outings. It’s unrealistic expectation.

Plus they might be embarrassed to admit that these outings are pricey. I make a decent living but I’d be taken aback having to to these bars and restaurants and concerts on a regular basis and now staying in a beach town.

If they have several friends and all want expensive outings, it gets pricey. It’s hard to admit especially if they aren’t close friends. Sometimes you just met them and you already want frequent outings. And as we get older many people save or invest substantial amount for old age. Expectation of frequent pricey outings might be too much. I’d give it some thought

Honestly if I meet people I don’t like, I’d rather be alone. It’s stressful. You don’t like them yet you pursue them actively. Imagine you’ve met a man you didn’t like and who didn’t meet your standards. Would it make sense to demand he goes on dates with you? All while you don’t even like him? Would you say because you can’t meet a man you like, you’ll just date the one you don’t like? Makes no logical sense.

It’s the same with friends. You don’t like them. So what’s the point