Did you love the person who dumped you? Do you now? Or was it just your first attempt at dating that went awry and you are now experiencing shame and disappointment? Or is it a question you cannot answer because you have not yet figured out what love is?

Being dumped by the first romantic partner must be a scary experience that can send you in a cycle of despair and self-loathing. It is important for you to realize that on the spectrum of "unsuccesses", this is towards the more severe range, that it will continue to hurt for a long time and that how you work through it now may determine your fate in dating for years if not decades to come. So, it is all very important. I am glad you came here and trust that you will receive adequate support and advice. Do not compare your misfortune to that of others by way of saying that yours is minor because you were not abused as a child and did not have to put up with a toxic partner.

If you actually loved/love your former romantic partner, there is a lot to be said for finding solace in poetry now as unrequited love is such a big topic that has been portrayed well and you very well may find poems that will resonate with you and soothe your hurt soul.