I’m reading this as a couple of different issues, you feel like people don’t make time for you being one and you feel like others don’t listen to you being another?

The time issue could just be a mismatched expectation around each of your needs, you wanting more time and them giving less. That’s something that either you can adjust expectations and accept less time is allocated to you or you can choose to seek different friends who have the same time expectations.

Not being listened to however is different, that’s pretty much a fundamental part of reciprocal friendships, I’m not sure why you find yourself in this situation over and over but I’m wondering if subconsciously you’re drawn to people who do this. What do you think?