It’s hard to make friends especially as we get older. It’s hard for everyone. It’s not hard nowadays to find social groups to do things with but not to build friendships.

Most friendships take time especially as we age. Also most friendships develop authentically so to speak. Like common interests or something in common brings you together naturally-life style or personality etc

In your situations these mostly seem to be very random people who you have nothing in common with, whom you don’t even like much and who you want friendship and devotion after only few meetings with them. It just doesn’t work like that. Yes you could meet friends online but it takes time. Even if you met online or through social group you cannot expect immediate friendships. Friendships don’t develop that way.

In cases of accommodating others though-if you belong to a group of people who enjoy early day time activities, you either have to accommodate them or quit them all together. You are upset that you have to accommodate them but if you are the only one liking evening outings it’s only understandable.

As about them not listening. I am not sure what it is. It just seems like there’s nothing in common and no true connection with these people. Maybe it would develop over time but you got to give it time