It’s not wrong but if someone doesn’t initiate time with me and shows no interest in me, having these conversations is kind of pointless. Sure they might feel bad for me and contact me more often but why would I want that? People either do or they don’t.

Also if I tell people I am busy, but they don’t accept that and confront me indirectly accusing me of being a liar or people pleaser, that’s just no good. If I tell people I am busy, I expect them to accept it and not question it. Of course you could keep confronting people about initiating more events or seeing you more but in a long run it’s just not going to improve just because that’s what you want. You can’t force it. You’ll just push people away.

Allow friendships develop authentically. You can’t force it by telling people what you need them to do