I’m friend of looking for patterns and take responsibility for my own actions. If I put responsibility outside I’m distracting myself of the focus, that is, what I can change.
And of course, one of this “I can change” is to choose who I want to spend my time with.
All this is very far from complaining about how the other person is, try to change them or expect what they won’t probably give me that is what I’d like. If I hang on in the I’d like or They should, I would consider myself a slave of what I think others expect from me or what I think I should do for them. Because this is at least a two parties thing.

Relations are so difficult.

Good point, Disco. 👍