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Originally Posted by jesyka
I’m not abrasive. I’m honest. I didn’t call her any of the things I mentioned on here. I only told her to not gaslight me when she accused me of calling her a horrible person as I never said that ever.
If being honest is being abrasive, then I don’t know what to tell you. What should I do? Lie? How will that resolve any issues?
I tell it like it us. I don’t b.s. My friend likes the fact that I’m real & not a phony. It seems like people tend to find honesty to be offensive which is a problem with them, not me.
I admit, I honestly have no problem hurting someone’s feelings when they mistreat & abuse me. Example, I called out that former mooch friend & shamed her to her face for being a user & a liar. How dare she tried to use my friend & I. She deserved what she got, lol.
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You may not have said some of the things you were thinking, but she may have perceived what you were feeling. So much communication is nonverbal - tone of voice and, if in person, things like eye contact and body language. I think you mentioned you may be on the spectrum or are on the spectrum? Maybe you aren't as aware about how your communication style is perceived. Just a thought.