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Old Aug 12, 2023, 12:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Lemoncake View Post
Sorry for butting in LT, but not being able to offer feedback which could be interpreted as criticism, isn't indicative of a truly safe relationship. You are having to hide what you feel. It becomes about him and trying to avoid more potential conflict and further ruptures. It's still there in the room with you even if you don't verbalize it.

Thanks, Lemon. I do wonder how much of this is transference though, my feeling like I can't criticize him because he's an authority figure (like my mom). Or fearing his reaction if I do. Rather than it being about him in particular. Yes, he doesn't take criticism as well as he ideally would (for this type of relationship), but he also wouldn't abandon me over it.
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