Unfortunately, words are very easy. Toss them out and see what sticks. Hope the other person (or people) believe you or give you the benefit of the doubt- or make excuses for you

Actions do speak far louder than words.

It sometimes seems to me like it's not so much that it's not real, as that it's more of a conditional transaction. Sometimes it was good, sometimes it was bad, but it was always based on whether they were happy or not with the supply you were giving them at that time, coupled with their own perpetual chaos. Definitely not selfless love though.