I think it’s not as much stigma as people just don’t know what to say. They might advise you to see a professional not because of malicious intent, but because they don’t know what to say that’s helpful. It might be perceived as unhelpful or even be harmful if people say the wrong thing. Regular folks aren’t trained in this.

Personally I am a practical person and usually offer practical suggestions. If a person isn’t taking me up on those suggestions and don’t use any of it, it’s a sign that my ideas aren’t helpful. I’d not continue making suggestions as it does not help. My next step would be to suggest they see a professional. What else would I say? Saying “I am sorry you are depressed” is kind of condescending and say “you’ll be fine” is just dismissive.

I know a lot of people with mental health issues. Friends, family, coworkers. I don’t see stigma per se as the society is quite open about it. But I don’t really see how regular folks could help much with it on a regular basis. I think most people do their best

If you want people to talk about your depression and don’t want to be alone: Are there any peer support groups since you can’t get therapy? I’ve seen groups through meetup: for anxiety and depression. There are also groups for widows and widowers, which you’d qualify for. But here I am again with practical suggestions