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Old Aug 17, 2023, 07:38 AM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
Maybe I’m strange, but I might feel deep emotions running into a significant ex (Jay was very short term) many years later. I’m sorry your exes are always at the music venues you enjoy. That bites.

I’ll add that you’re wanting Jay to have wanted you, isn’t even about him. It is about the idea of him, not the actual him. I think we all are subconsciously trying to resolve childhood trauma and this is how it plays out in present day.
Oh that makes sense. Often when we feel rejected it’s not even about that person. Good point about childhood trauma

You aren’t strange. Significant ex yes, it’s probably not unusual to feel certain way even years later. I meant some short dating experiences will likely not mean much years later-that’s what I meant

Not to hijack but I know I felt some type of way when my ex husband remarried and it was years after divorce and we felt nothing romantic for each other. But not only I felt awkward but I think I made it known by my indirect behavior. I think I was kind of rude. Kind of embarrassing to think of it. She is a lovely woman.

We feel what we feel even if we don’t realize it and don’t understand why
Thanks for this!
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