Thanks, @divine1966 & @TishaBuv, for your thoughts and input.

I guess it feels like a rejection, and I do have trouble with rejection. Before he brought her to the venue, he and I had talked about hooking up again, as I mentioned before. But then he quickly switched gears and started dating someone else, so naturally I felt rejected. And now he's bringing her regularly to the Wed night shows, which only just puts it all right in my face. I am not taking it well.

That being said, we had all collectively concluded on this thread that Jay is not a high quality person, or a guy to date long-term or seriously. So, there's that for me to factor in and consider in this equation. Ultimately, I need to remind myself that I do not actually wish to date jay again, or be in a real relationship with him. He couldn't give me what I want and needed.

And most likely, he will do the same things to this new woman and likely already is.

I mean, the other night my friend reported that she sat in the far back of the venue on the couch alone. It's not a good or positive sign, in my opinion. I imagine that perhaps he was treating her the same as me, holding her at a distance and at arms length, and she got mad so she went to the back area by herself because she was angry. This is all imaginary and in my head, but she rode with Jay to the venue in Jay's car. He was her ride. So, why was she sitting in the back all by herself during the second set, and not by Jay's side? It makes me wonder what happened, but ultimately, it's not my problem or concern. I have far bigger fish to fry in my own life. But it did raise an eyebrow for me.

Interesting point @TishaBuv about trauma and that I wanted Jay to still want me. I always want my exes to still want me, for some reason... not the ones I reject, but the ones who reject me. Perhaps because my father rejected me in so many ways and was so constantly overly critical towards me, that I crave that male attention, regardless of how I feel towards the person????

Definitely food for thought for me. Thank you.. I appreciate hearing this perspective.