I felt like you do, too. The psy’s putting out the videos are talking about the science behind this concept. Once I learned this, my self esteem rose ten times that day lol (Grinch reference), and I’ll never crave love from someone unavailable again. I’ll still have that wish, deep within, from those most close people who withheld in the past. But I won’t keep banging my head over them, and am resolute to not let myself get into that with anyone moving forward.