You are not being dismissed, but people have tried showing you that your reactions are not grounded in reality. Also, if you have such strong preconceptions about what other people should or should not tell you, why do you crowdsource answers to your questions?

I do not think that people consider you silly for letting this bother you, but I, for one, and I think some others, do not think that you have your priorities straight. While it is not silly to let this bother you, being preoccupied with this issue while you have urgent, pressing, and very serious REALissues knocking on your door, such as lack of health insurance and financial dependence, shows a profound misalignment of priorities. I hope you discuss this in therapy to get help with refocuing from the imaginary onto the real.