/We do not have groupies on this thread. We do not really know what they enjoy or expect. We do not have real stakeholders voice their opinions. So we do not have the relevant testimony about the local custom. We have not heard it.

^ I wouldn’t say I was ever a groupie, but do have experience in this.

Generally, the term groupie implies someone who hooks up with members of a band. The classic image of it is they go backstage during the concert where they meet the band and have sex with them.

It’s depicted a lot in movies, and it does happen IRL. It’s definitely a thing everyone in the modern music performance world knows is done. It’s even done on a smaller level with not famous bands.

The term “fan” is someone with a crush on a celebrity or someone who passionately likes them. It doesn’t imply having sex with them, like “groupie”.

This was a good, interesting thread. So much was discussed about communication and non-verbal cues, interpretations….

I don’t know, Jeskya, if you feel overwhelmed, dismissed all the feedback, or will process it. It’s worth really giving thought to all the comments made here since you have felt badly about this for a long time and likely will continue to.