It will be grounds for divorce for me if my husband hid things. You have rights to demand to know his SS# or any other info.

My sister in law isn’t involved in any billings or financial dealings and she only ever worked occasional part time jobs, if any. That’s just how their marriage works and it’s fine, not that unusual. My brother isn’t a jerk though and .I am sure he’s not hiding anything, there’s nothing shady.

Regardless if you work or not, if you are legally married you have rights to know things. I know other families where one spouse doesn’t work but it doesn’t mean they are kept in the dark.

I’d also demand to know if there are any retirement savings. What’s he planning on both of you living on in old age? You have rights of information