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Old Aug 21, 2023, 03:34 PM
pliepla pliepla is offline
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It's difficult to hear about past loves (lovers), the only thing was time that worked for me to get over the feelings of residual/retroactive jealousy and anxiety.
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Originally Posted by TheGal View Post
Also, it's not a good idea to compare 'numbers' of people you slept with.

I would express to your partner that you don't want to hear all the details...
First, I would like to point out I don't really want this thread to become about me. Regardless, I think I should elaborate a bit about the context ...

(What follows is not really a trigger but I wanted to make this part collapsible bacause I would like to discuss this elsewhere and I saw no other way to achieve this.)
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As you said time, discussing our shared experience and a lot of affirmation did help me. But I don't want to discuss this in this thread although I believe it might be useful to start another tread and I am not sure in which subforum to post this.

What surprises me most, and it did help me these last few days, is the impact it has on her. My ex-wife just continued with her stories while my current girlfriend wants to support me, even if we've been together for such a short period. She is looking for ways to handle her emotions and she would like to have some handles on how to support me (just being there is a big one and I will keep telling her that). So basically, any suggestions about books, films, documentaries, ... are most welcome.

And a sugestion on where exactly to put my story might be helpful too.