She cites the lonliness and my emotional unavailability as the biggest causes of the marriage failure.

However, she also claims that "a spirit revealed to her" that i cheated on her with our female vocalist, which never happened.

I've been cheated on and i wouldn't do it to somebody else.

My wife and i, up until recently, have had real-time, family GPS tracking and no passwords on either of our phones, plus, the female vocalist was deeply involved with one of our guitarists. And i made sure i was NEVER alone with her and her husband was present at all our rehearsals and performances, plus, i always sent my wife photos of us as a group rehearsing.