I have a small group of friends that are picky & rigid. We made plans to celebrate my birthday but the plans kept changing. I had to change the restaurant that I chose twice because one lady didn’t like my choices.

She then wanted me to change the time from 5p.m to 1p.m. When I said no, she said she couldn’t come anymore. The other women in the group are enablers & they always agree to do whatever she wants.

Then the second time the other two women canceled at the last minute. One said she was sick. Then the other lady who confirmed that she’d be there all of a sudden said she was sick too.

She has an auto immune disease, so I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. Then today this other lady didn’t want to go to the place that I chose as it’s to noisy & to far away!

I just discussed this with my husband & he told me that I shouldn’t say anything to them if I want to keep them as friends. He said that this is typical difficult spoiled female behavior, ugh.

So I don’t have a right to set boundaries then? Why are they like this? It’s not fair. They often try to do everything early & they rarely make compromises.

It’s frustrating! It’s my birthday, so they should take my needs & feelings into consideration too.

My husband thinks that I’m ‘overreacting.’ What should I do?

If I talk to them about this, I’ll use ‘I’ statements. I’d tell them that I felt like I had to make to many changes in order to make them happy. How should I word things if I do end up saying anything?