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Originally Posted by jesyka
I mentioned having misunderstood a few people on here, sorry once agaiin. I’ll try to forget about this & learn from my mistakes.
I still want to go out, so I’m overthinking things now on how to avoid being targeted again. A friend & I nhave ticketscto see two different bands in October. We’re going to a club next month too.
Her & I have only had one issue with some weird lady who tried to stop me from taking pics of this band one time. I told her to stop touching me & to get out of my fave or I’d have security kick her out.
She then went to talk to my friend & said something about the flash & helping me. I didn’t see any signs up. Weird! God, I’m a freak magnet, ugh! lol
At least I wasn’t sexually harassed!
So far all I was able to come with is this:
Be more aware of who is around me
Don’t drink to much
Don’t talk to anyone
Don’t ever stand upfront. I stay all the way in the back now.
Don’t ever go anywhere alone
Don’t ever try to meet anyone famous again.
Move if someone is being creepy.
Get a bouncer to kick out anyone who bothers me immediately.
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jesyka
To be noted: bouncers will
only kick out those who are violating some sort of club policy. Rudeness does not get a person kicked out of a club. Violence yes, fighting, harassing the staff, obvious sexual harassment, or anything else that is deemed unacceptable by the club. People don't get kicked out by bouncers simply for bothering or annoying another patron.
I've had people try to block my camera or tell me to turn off my camera light. Yes, it's annoying but I'm not going to threaten going to the bouncer about it.
If she briefly touched you, yes, she violated your personal space, but that is not going to get her kicked out of the club. Now if she started physically manhandling you, punched you, kicked you, bit you, or pulled your hair to start a fight, then yes, you could complain to staff. But not in your case.
And I agree with others. You don't need to always stand in the back, not talk to anyone, and not drink. You can drink responsibly, talk to whomever you want while being prudent, and you can dance up front if you wish. Since you will be with a girlfriend next time, or the next few times, you two can be safety buddies, looking out for each other.
I think the point people were trying to make is that because you WERE alone this last time , kind of drunk, AND up front dancing by yourself, it put you into a more vulnerable position. But you don't need to go to the opposite extremes. You can still have fun, and it's great that next time, you will be with a friend.