You can’t guess how much I understand you.
My attitude is kind of being sorry or apologising when I have to order something. In shops, at the offices…by phone I even low my voice and I give this submissive pitch.
I didn’t notice it before but now, I’m pretty aware so that allowed me to change this attitude for a more confident one and friendly. I know polite is enough but I still go beyond that, friendly.
It took me an effort at the beginning. Now, it’s more natural.

😂 I remember when my psychologist and I held our hands. Straight away, she drew the attention to how weakly I help her hand.

Why do you think in your case asking for help is even harder as you age than before?