Oh gosh that’s a bit harsh of your husband imo, what do you think?

I’d personally be looking at the reasons why these people try to schedule early, why they don’t like noisy venues? For instance do they have hearing issues? Sensory processing issues? An auto immune illness might mean decreased energy means evening is out as they need to rest. Idk if any of that is the case but they’re the sort of things that might impact plans.

I have a couple of friends who do cancel plans last minute but I don’t take it personally as they have caring responsibilities and things crop up although I’m sad we don’t often get to meet up in person.

Every case is individual though.