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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
Oh gosh that’s a bit harsh of your husband imo, what do you think?
I’d personally be looking at the reasons why these people try to schedule early, why they don’t like noisy venues? For instance do they have hearing issues? Sensory processing issues? An auto immune illness might mean decreased energy means evening is out as they need to rest. Idk if any of that is the case but they’re the sort of things that might impact plans.
I have a couple of friends who do cancel plans last minute but I don’t take it personally as they have caring responsibilities and things crop up although I’m sad we don’t often get to meet up in person.
Every case is individual though.
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Yeah, he is a bit sexist. He thinks that all women are annoying & difficult, lol.
They are all early bird types. One lady is pretty rigid. She rarely agrees to do anything past 1p.m. It’s to much. I’m not sure why that is. She does have a fear of driving at night. But it’s still light out at 5p.m now.
They’re all in their late 50’s & I think that they’re set in their ways unfortunately.
The pickiness with the restaurant is ridiculous! The lady who said the other place is to noisy, I don’t get. How would she know it’s to noisy? We’ve been to concerts together, do noise is not the issue here.
I think that she is just to lazy to drive out to the restaurant that I chose. Also, this place was a but more expensive than the first place & she’s a bit frugal.
The funny thing is that none of them gave each other a hard time about what place & time they chose for their birthday but me.
It almost seems like they don’t really want to celebrate my birthday. Hopefully I’m wrong about that.
One lady bailed. I don’t know why she did. This time the day didn’t work for her. This is from the uber picky lady who always has to have everything done how she likes it. She said no to the first two restaurants as she’s a very picky eater.
She doesn’t have allergies or anything like that, she’s just picky. She said she doesn’t like eating raw food when I chose a Japanese place. That’s silly as there’s cooked food there too.
Maybe this is a weird control thing too as I didn’t ask them where they’d like to go. I just asked them if this place is OK.
The other two women will always accommodate her whenever she asks to chenge the time to suit her needs. I’m the only one who doesn’t let her get away with manipulating things by saying no when everyone says yes.
I do agree to meet them earlier in the day sometimes, but it’s not fair that they don’t try to make compromises too. There’s some weird dynamic to where there’s pressure to conform because that’s what everyone else wants but me.
So they kind of use peer pressure to get me to do what they want.
Should I say anything to them or not? If not, then why? I’m meeting them this Sunday,