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Old Aug 24, 2023, 03:54 PM
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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro View Post
I know it. And it’s not my intention to make you agree with me.
Obviously I agree with you in that the better understanding and the more empathic people around us are, the better for us. One part of self-esteem involves also the input gotten from our surroundings, so yes, it helps.

You were asked if you were in the autism spectrum because you mentioned it in a thread? You never answered. It would be a good idea to treat this topic also with your therapist. It could be the reason why you find so hard to read social interactions however this is not the only cause.

There are self-defence mechanisms developed when kids while interact with the environment and are learnt and fixed to let us know how things work and survive. The problem is that some of these self-defence mechanisms are valid until we develop others that are more helpful as we grow, others have to be modulated so I stress again in the need you work this in therapy.

In relation to a reply you gave when you received good advices as to use the posts in this thread, people’s reactions and your own reactions, the pattern to figure out the interferences when relating to others…You replied as if relations among people could be limited to a group of norms and that’s it. In my opinion is sometimes a mistake because of overgeneralisations such as: Not going out alone. And sometimes they fall as short because each interaction takes place in a context. For example, what Disco mentioned about why this woman could have called your attention by touching you because of the noice.
I can’t say: I won’t let anybody to enter my own personal space under any circumstance. Because circumstances vary.

There’s something you repeated on several occasions: Disrespect. This happens when we are on defensive mood. And you have to work this. Obviously, if you are under this mood, any interaction is gonna fail and you are gonna suffer because you are gonna ruminate around it over and over again and get the feeling of angriness that you experimented at that situation.

Have you ever worked in therapy cognitive mistakes? It’s important to consider them. I know it’s not easy to break them down at the sudden. It takes time, I know it. But, are you familiarised with it?
That lady was in my face and she wouldn’t leave me alone even after I specifically told her to stop touching me. When someone tells you to back off, you don’t continue to touch them.