Your birthday was July 4th. Almost two months ago. At this point I’d probably not be interested in massive celebrations. For the next year if you want to have a birthday party at the restaurant, tell them they are invited at this day and time and need to rsvp by whatever date. Who will be able to attend that’s who you’ll celebrate with. No need to keep changing venues.

But you also have to think what’s your priority, if you like these people then is it more important to go out late at night and far or is it more important to have good time with your friends.

I do wonder why going out earlier or seeing movies earlier is unacceptable for you. What do you do during the day that makes you unavailable until later?

And I agree with others in the light of being unable to pay mortgage and possibly losing a house restaurants and movies isn’t a priority. Also with the price of gas I’d prefer closer venue (if I had no money for mortgage). And I’d be very upset with my husband if I couldn’t pay mortgage, he wasn’t working but wanted to drive places for birthday and other dinner outings. You have to put things into perspective