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Originally Posted by Have Hope
@ jesyka,
I have a different viewpoint than others. I totally understand how you feel and your points and upset at these women are valid. It IS YOUR birthday after all, and I personally feel that friends in that case should accommodate the person celebrating their birthday, vs the other way around! I would be very annoyed too with this situation. Why should you be bending over backwards to meet every one of their needs. I agree - what you want matters too, and should matter.
Your husband certainly is sexist. And you are not overreacting. I would have said something to these women, but that's how I am. I confront issues and am very forthcoming when I am upset. I don't let things slide.
Happy birthday, btw. I hope you can work this out so that you can enjoy it!  |
Thanks. I appreciate you understanding my POV. Yes, my husband is sexist. I don’t understand why most people think that I’m the problem.
IF I did this to them & insisted on going to dinner instead of brunch for example because it’s more convenient for me, I don’t think they’d appreciate that, lol.
I think I’ll be a pain in the butt for their birthday next time to all if them & be picky about the restaurant they choose to see how they like it. I’m not a passive aggressive person usually, but they need to see what it feels like.
Since I can’t be direct without offending thrm it seems like, what choice do I have? My attempts to communicate with them openly was seen as ‘scolding’ by one poster on here. Apparently a lot of people have a problem with honesty, ugh!
It’s like everyone expects me to be a doormat, that everything I say & do is wrong almost & that I should be grateful that anyone would even talk to me at all, ugh!