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Old Aug 27, 2023, 02:10 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Your birthday was July 4th. Almost two months ago. At this point I’d probably not be interested in massive celebrations. For the next year if you want to have a birthday party at the restaurant, tell them they are invited at this day and time and need to rsvp by whatever date. Who will be able to attend that’s who you’ll celebrate with. No need to keep changing venues.

But you also have to think what’s your priority, if you like these people then is it more important to go out late at night and far or is it more important to have good time with your friends.

I do wonder why going out earlier or seeing movies earlier is unacceptable for you. What do you do during the day that makes you unavailable until later?

And I agree with others in the light of being unable to pay mortgage and possibly losing a house restaurants and movies isn’t a priority. Also with the price of gas I’d prefer closer venue (if I had no money for mortgage). And I’d be very upset with my husband if I couldn’t pay mortgage, he wasn’t working but wanted to drive places for birthday and other dinner outings. You have to put things into perspective
The time isn’t the issue, it’s the pickiness & the selfishness that is bothering me. As I stated earlier, if it was their birthday & they wanted to go to brunch at a diner, I wouldn’t say, oh, I hate diners & I don’t like getting up early, so let’s go to dinner instead. That would be rude of me to do that.

And driving half an hour sway to a place ONCE a year shouldn’t be a big deal to these women. They’re not didabled & they all can drive.

I’d suck it up. And I did once. This place one lady chose sucked. I didn’t complain & I went thete early anyways. It was HER birthday after all. See what I’m getting at here? They should make compromises for MY birthday too. Especially since I did it for them.

As for expenses, I see your point. I’m not going to stsy home & not spend anything though ad that’d make me to depressed.

I don’t go to crazy. I’m not going to 5 star restaurants every weekend, lol. I go to matinees to where the price of a ticket is $7.50 once a month. Saving that much a month isn’t going to get us out of debt btw.

I think of it as ‘cheap therapy’, lol
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