I reread your post explaining ladies reasonings

You pick expensive restaurant. This lady is frugal. She has rights to be frugal and unless you are paying for their meals don’t invite them to expensive restaurants. Wanting cheaper venues makes total sense.

Restaurant is noisy and they don’t like it but you say they go to concerts. You go to concerts to listen to loud music. You don’t go to converse. Restaurants are for conversing while eat.

Being afraid to drive in the dark is valid. Late 50s is when you start developing cataracts and it’s blurry. Yes it’s light at 5, but might be dark when you go home.

If they have health issues and families and possibly still work, wanting to take it easy on the weekends is reasonable.

Now should they sometimes do things your way? Probably. But some things just don’t need to be compromised. Like driving in the dark or wasting money if people aren’t well off. You can’t ask for that compromise.