I’d feel hurt, too, if my friends didn’t want to do anything I wanted on my birthday. I agree with you that they should compromise some things because you are good friends. IME, though, I don’t think anyone ever was willing to do much of that. I don’t have much luck with changing anyone’s mind once they say they don’t want to do something. The confrontation just causes bad feelings and a worse relationship or no more relationship.

I’m sorry you feel you are stuck with these friends who you don’t like much. I hope the new ones are better. Maybe you will see them on your birthday instead.