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Originally Posted by jesyka
Thanks. I appreciate you understanding my POV. Yes, my husband is sexist. I don’t understand why most people think that I’m the problem.
IF I did this to them & insisted on going to dinner instead of brunch for example because it’s more convenient for me, I don’t think they’d appreciate that, lol.
I think I’ll be a pain in the butt for their birthday next time to all if them & be picky about the restaurant they choose to see how they like it. I’m not a passive aggressive person usually, but they need to see what it feels like.
Since I can’t be direct without offending thrm it seems like, what choice do I have? My attempts to communicate with them openly was seen as ‘scolding’ by one poster on here. Apparently a lot of people have a problem with honesty, ugh!
It’s like everyone expects me to be a doormat, that everything I say & do is wrong almost & that I should be grateful that anyone would even talk to me at all, ugh!
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You are correct in thinking that if you were this picky for their birthday's, they would not appreciate it.
On the flip side, yes it's thoughtful to change the restaurant once because the chosen one is too above someone's budget. And that's where you can accommodate.
But to have to accommodate and bend to every wish of each person in the group? It is too much, and I agree with you, @
jesyka.
Then I think you said one or two women cancelled because they did not like the choice, is that correct? And then once you changed the restaurant,. they said they could join again? Is that right?
I would be super annoyed with this group if it were me.
Do you enjoy their friendship otherwise?