It’s my husband. He responds this way every single time I express any kind of annoyance or frustration. It’s OK for HIM to mumble and cuss under his breath when some little thing happens, but I am not even permitted a loud sigh.

Then, ironically, he will accuse *me* of “trying to start a fight.”

Yes, last night when he did this, I told him he was being abusive to me. He didn’t like that at all, of course, but I finally managed to get the point across that saying a particular action is abusive isn’t the same as calling him an abuser. Sometimes my actions are abusive too, and I have to work on that.

Thank you so much for the support.