@Arbie do either you or your husband use alcohol or other drugs?

Does your husband have ADHD?

Both of these can contribute to relationship dysfunction. Men that have ADHD notoriously struggle when it comes to sitting still and listening to emotional drama. Men with ADHD often project negative emotions when they get overwhelmed and they tend to unknowingly take up space. This can seem to be a narcissistic abuser however it’s not the same.

Add alcohol or drugs into the mix and problems get magnified leading to mean drunk behaviors and even blackouts.