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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I’d feel hurt, too, if my friends didn’t want to do anything I wanted on my birthday. I agree with you that they should compromise some things because you are good friends. IME, though, I don’t think anyone ever was willing to do much of that. I don’t have much luck with changing anyone’s mind once they say they don’t want to do something. The confrontation just causes bad feelings and a worse relationship or no more relationship.
I’m sorry you feel you are stuck with these friends who you don’t like much. I hope the new ones are better. Maybe you will see them on your birthday instead.
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Thanks. If this isn’t bad enough, they won’t respect my boundaries when it comes to me not wanting to be in group pics. I tell them no repeatedly & they harass me to death until I say yes.
They did that to me again at my birthday lunch. One lady guilt tripped me with this spiel about memories. She pulled out old pics. I’m mad at myself for caving in once again. I resent them for this.
I did text them afterwards & told them that I felt my boundaries were disrespected & that I can’t be friends with them anymore if they continue to pressure me to be in their pics.
Only the pushiest lady who guilt tripped me said sorry. The other two ignored me. I’m very upset. Obviously thet don’t care about my feelings & they’ll probably try peer pressure & guilt tactics to get their way again. My days with them are probably numbered.
They are selfish & disrespectful. Everything is about what they need & want.