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Originally Posted by Have Hope
You are correct in thinking that if you were this picky for their birthday's, they would not appreciate it.
On the flip side, yes it's thoughtful to change the restaurant once because the chosen one is too above someone's budget. And that's where you can accommodate.
But to have to accommodate and bend to every wish of each person in the group? It is too much, and I agree with you, @ jesyka.
Then I think you said one or two women cancelled because they did not like the choice, is that correct? And then once you changed the restaurant,. they said they could join again? Is that right?
I would be super annoyed with this group if it were me.
Do you enjoy their friendship otherwise? |
Thanks for understanding things. They are the ones who are being unreasonable & annoying, not me. I did bend over backwards to accommodate them. What is worse is that a wise new aquaintence pointed out something disturbing to me. He thinks that these women are playing sick mind games with me to dee me squirm for their amusement.
He said that they enjoy seeing my reaction as it gives them a sense of power. He was like, they wanted to see how many times I’d csnge the restaurant for them & how far I’d go to accommodate them. He is probably on to something.
They never did this with each other. And two of the women in the group bailed on me during our second get together at the last minute. It’s possibly that they got sicj, but one lady actually conothings that day then bailed right after the first lady canceled m. Weird!
He said they didn’t want to attend my birthday lunch & only went to see me the other day put of guilt. Hopefully that’s not the case.
Anyways, yes, the restaurant was changed three times. .Actually, four times. The third place I chose I changed the location to a nicer place a little further sway. Then one lady didn’t want to go thete as driving half an hour away was to far for her. The funny thing is all of them have driven half an hour to places before with no complaints.
And this lady recently drove to an event an hour away to see a free concert! Wth? Obviously distance isn’t an issue with her.
She couldn’t do this for me one time a year. She lives in the area btw. It was a lame excuse.
So this other lady couldn’t make it on Sunday to go to the new place all of a sudden became available when I switched back to the old place. In the text she said, is that the place on X ave which was telling.
She really hates to drive. She actually pays $75 for a mani instad of $35 to avoid driving further away because she hates driving that much, lol. She said a bad driver.
Weird! On topof that, they harassed me to desth for a pic again! They are onsessed with their stupid group pics! I resent them for that! Tgey have no respect for my boundaries!
I said no many times! They use peer pressure & guilt & they beg me to desth until I say yes. I’m so uoset that I texted them & tild them that I’m upset & to stop disrespecting my boundaries or I’ll stop being friends with them.
Only one lady said sorry. The other teo women ignored me. Rude! I’m afraid that they’ll still harass me for pic’s despite thus warning.
Why would they disrespect my boundaries? My days with them are probably numbered now. I can’t take much more of this crap.
On the positive side, I got a visa gift card for $50 & a Sephora one for $25 & another one for $40. It doesn’t make up for the disrespect & inconsiderate behavior though.