I've been at my new position for about a month, and I'm still struggling with finding a balance. I honestly don't think my recent ASD-1 Diagnosis has anything to do with it in the long run.

Incidentally, deal with it or quit isn't really helpful. I like the work and I need to pay my bills, so quitting isn't an option. I'm asking for tips here.

I've learned that my manager is REALLY extrAverted and is pretty focused on getting the entire team to bend to her will.

For instance, I'm getting feedback such as:

"ZenZeta" I didn't see you on the virtual brewery tour today (an optional call)

"ZenZeta", I see you didn't respond to the pictures coworker x sent of her vacation. " (this was sent to my personal phone on a weekend. I didn't open the text)

"ZenZeta", you should really try to bond with your team mates more. I'm going to put you on a 1:1 call to get to know each other...

I'm really trying, but this is SO exhausting. I have two people that I can say are true "friends", and I don't really talk to them that much. I value organic, authentic relationships and being forced to like someone I barely know is tough.

I think our definition of "team player" is different. If someone on the team needs help meeting a deadline or cranking out some work, I'm 100% there. I don't see value in being besties with my work colleagues. My bestie has four legs and a tail because she DOES. NOT. TALK.....

I'm taking what I can on the chin, but should I try to approach my manager and explain a bit more about how hard her forced dynamic is for me or just let it go.

BTW... I'm still getting up super early and working super late and on weekends so I can get work done when it's QUIET!!!!

Help!!!