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Originally Posted by divine1966
There are many things people can do that don’t involve spending money-if they are true friends and value each other, but can’t afford things. Free events, free fairs and concerts in the summer, walk in the park, sit outside, visit each other etc
You seem to equate friendships with going out to eat or attend events that cost money. It’s all good but it’s not requirement for friendships. It’s more like a requirement for activity partners. Like specific “restaurant going group”. Your understanding of actual friendships is a bit different than most
Also something just doesn’t add up. You owe IRS money, have no savings for old age, can’t pay mortgage and could potentially end up homeless. Yet you are saying people are jealous of you because you are more well off. It makes no sense. Why would they be jealous? Just because you continue spending money you can’t afford to spend, doesn’t make you “less broke”.
As about sickness you said you are so very sick that you cannot work. So you are a very ill person. How can you judge people for being sick, it seems strange to me. Anyone can get sick at any time. Would you dump them as friends, even though you yourself very unwell?
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I have went out for walks with friends & went to their homes to hang out. You’re wrong about your assumptions. I do enjoy going out though.
I don’t expect to go to fancy places. I’m meeting a new aquaintence fir the 3rd time today for frozen yogurt as that’s all that she can afford for now.
I’m fine with that. What I was trying to say is that I can’t stand these sick people because all they literally do is whine about their health issues.
They could talk about other things, but they deliberately choose NOT to! They are so selfish & annoying. They all want a free therapist it seens like, NOT a friend.
I blocked & deleted women like that after meetung them. I have no interest in being used as a free therapist. They didn’t even bother to ask me a single question about myself
Rude! I don’t need friends that badly, lol! I’m empathetic, but not stupid.
I have my own isdues, but I’m not so sick that I can’t go out & have fun. It sounds like you think that I shoukd always stay home & not soend a single penny.
I need to get out or I’ll go crazy from stress & depression . I normally don’t go out more than twice a month. I don’t think that’s excessive.
I have mentioned going to inexpensive places too most of the time like matinees. I don’t understand why you think I should never go out or never soend any money ever. We obviously have issues, but spending less than $10 at the movies isn’t going to make a huge difference with getting us out of debt or more into debt.
What am I supposed to do, sit & home & be miserable? Also, should I just accept anyone into my life? It sounds like you think I should accept anyone who’ll give me the time of day which I don’t agree with at all.