Mouse, I'm glad you got the note of reassurance from your T. It sounds like your way of doing therapy is working for you. But you can always try new things. I wonder if in that book, it was somewhat of a literary device that clients seemed to open up so quickly and shared such deep things right away? Because it would be boring to read of the months spent developing intimacy. I read a book about a handful of a therapist's clients, and I thought he gave a good sense of all this developing slowly. So at least for that therapist, the revealing and deepness was not overnight. What was the book, by the way?

If you can tell her the dream, you are very brave and have a established a great deal of trust.

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I spend a lot of time wondering what my therapist *wants* me to do / be

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Kim, I don't necessarily wonder how my therapist wants me to be, but I do wonder what his sessions with other clients are like and it I "do" therapy like others or not. Sometimes he drops hints about how I am similar or different, likewise my couples therapy. Recently he said to me that when most couples who are divorcing and he is working with as a coach come see him, it is to work out issues with their kids. But with me and my H, that is never it. We deal quite well with that on our own. We come to see him for other stuff. That was really fascinating to me.