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Originally Posted by jesyka
I was assertive with them. I clearly told them no directly many times. They harassed me to death & I stupidly let them get away with taking my pic a few times.
I said no. How is that being passive agressive? I was direct with telling how I feel. If I were to be passive aggressive, I’d ghost them. At least I explained things to them.
How do you think I should’ve handled things?
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I think passive aggressive component is agreeing to something you don’t want to do and then being angry about it.
It’s the same people pleasing you hate in others. When people agreed to do things with you you even though they didn’t want to, you called them people pleasers and said you can’t stand people pleasers.
But you are being one yourself: changing your plans, agreeing to take pics, changing restaurants etc It’s ok to accommodate others but not if you resent it and later confront people about things that you agreed to.
Either accommodate people out of goodness of your heart or don’t accommodate them. I don’t think it’s wise to accommodate everyone but then be angry and confrontational about it.