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Originally Posted by divine1966
I think passive aggressive component is agreeing to something you don’t want to do and then being angry about it.
It’s the same people pleasing you hate in others. When people agreed to do things with you you even though they didn’t want to, you called them people pleasers and said you can’t stand people pleasers.
But you are being one yourself: changing your plans, agreeing to take pics, changing restaurants etc It’s ok to accommodate others but not if you resent it and later confront people about things that you agreed to.
Either accommodate people out of goodness of your heart or don’t accommodate them. I don’t think it’s wise to accommodate everyone but then be angry and confrontational about it.
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I see your point. However, I’m definitely not a people pleaser. I tried to be accommodating.
That’s all. It became to much though. They took advantage of my kindness obviously. They took me for granted. I then became resentful because they thought they could get away with being picky & controlling.
A fee people told me they were playing games with me to make me squirm to see how much they could get away with for fun even. How sick is that? They might’ve been doing that for laughs.